The Project Is the Way
get inside your idea
Greetings from overcast Santa Cruz, California—where the jasmine growing outside our windows fills the room with a sweet scent of aliveness 🌸
There is one month left before we begin the first Prismara Circle. If you’re feeling the pull to step into your creative work in a deeper way, join us for an upcoming experiential circle and see what it’s all about.
The Project is the Way
Clarity Comes From Commitment
There’s a moment that comes after the spark of an idea—after inspiration strikes, after you feel that little rush of excitement. It’s the moment where you decide: Am I really going to do this?
And this is where so many creative dreams stall out.
They join the ever-growing graveyard of unrequited inspiration. The book never written. The album never recorded. The business never started. The project that could’ve helped many—left to dissolve into the background because the moment of decision passed, and hesitation took its place.
Not because the idea wasn’t good. Not because we didn’t have the time, the talent, or the resources (although we might tell ourselves these are the reasons).
But because we got stuck in committing.
We start questioning. Is this really the right project? Should I be doing something else? What if this takes up all my time and I realize later it wasn’t worth it?
So we sit in indecision. We wait for certainty before we commit. But certainty doesn’t come from thinking about a project. It comes from being inside a project.
My friend, the project is the way.
We tell ourselves that we need to get ready before we begin. That we should wait until we have a clearer vision, better skills, more time, or more confidence. But in reality, the project is what prepares us. It’s the thing that makes us ready.
A project is not just a thing we create—it’s something that shapes us. It teaches us how we work, where we hesitate, where we resist. It reveals our strengths and insecurities. And that’s why it feels uncomfortable to commit. Because deep down, we know that once we say yes, we will be changed by it.
Change—especially the kind that asks us to show up fully—is hard.
And yet, we must.
The Illusion of Readiness
I’ve spent years circling ideas, waiting to feel sure before I committed. I thought if I just sat with something long enough, the right decision would reveal itself. But that’s not how clarity works.
Had I followed through on my ideas instead of spinning in hesitation, I would have had a podcast in 2015. My idea at the time was to interview successful female entrepreneurs. But instead, I spent seven years wondering if it was the right move, if I was ready, if I should do something else.
And in 2022, when I finally launched the Wild on Purpose Podcast, I thought to myself: why didn’t I do this sooner?
This is how we waste our creative lives. Not through failure, but through hesitation and inaction.
Fear of Commitment
At its core, our hesitation to commit to a project isn’t really about the project itself. It’s about the fear of choosing the wrong thing.
What if I pour my heart into this and it doesn’t work? What if I invest all this time and then realize it wasn’t the right idea?
Just like the way we struggle with commitment in relationships.
We overthink, we hesitate, we second-guess. What if this isn’t my person? What if I choose this and something better comes along? But waiting for certainty doesn’t bring certainty. It just creates more doubt.
It’s the same with creative work.
From here on out, treat your creativity like a lover. Like a partner.
You won’t know if a project is the project until you’re inside it. And unlike a monogamous marriage, there is no actual thing as the project. One project will lead to another and another.
The only way to find out is to start. And the beautiful thing is—starting is never wasted effort. If you dive in and realize after a few days, this isn’t it, that’s not failure. That’s clarity. And that clarity came from movement, not from endless deliberation.
The Project as Growth
If you feel stuck in your creative life, the answer isn’t to wait for motivation, or inspiration, or a sign from the universe that you’re on the right track. The answer is to start something.
A project is a container for transformation. It gives you something real to engage with—a structure that moves you beyond overthinking and into action. It shows you your creative patterns:
Where you light up
Where you hesitate
Where you lose energy
Where you stop yourself from fully stepping in
And most importantly, it teaches you.
The process of making something is the way you figure out what you need to know—not just about your work, but about yourself. About your ability to navigate resistance, to move through self-doubt, to sit with the vulnerability of putting your voice into the world.
The project is the way.
It’s not something separate from your growth—it is your growth.
So if you’ve been sitting on an idea, waiting for the perfect moment, waiting for certainty—this is your moment. Step in. Let it shape you. Let it teach you.
Let it show you the way.
And you don’t have to walk that path alone.
This is exactly why Prismara exists—to be the space where you commit, where you bring your ideas to life, where you let your project shape you. Whether you’re writing a book, launching a podcast, birthing a new offering, or crafting a new business, this space is where alchemy meets execution.
If you’re ready to stop circling your ideas and start creating, come taste an experiential info session. The work—and your tribe—are waiting for you.
Creative Happenings & Personal Notes ✨
⚡️ A Breakthrough in Authentic Relating
I’ve just returned from Boulder, Colorado where I attended Authentic Relating Level 2, a relational healing modality I can’t recommend enough.
I had a profound breakthrough on our second morning when I revealed a trigger that had come up for me in front of a group of 32 people. As someone who has historically suppressed her truth to maintain a sense of harmony, this was huge. For 15 minutes, the whole group held space as my body shook, trembled, and cried—my nervous system recalibrating to greater authenticity.
On the other side of my reveal was a palpable sense of aliveness coursing through my body. My mind felt clear, my spine was straighter, and I felt an embodied sense of power in speaking more honestly.
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🎙️ New Podcast Episode — ‘Sunday Check-ins Save Marriages’ on Modern Relationships with Erik Torenberg
My husband,
and I revealed how we’ve navigated the ups and downs of marriage through a regular weekly check-in process, the art of rupture + repair, and what it means to view partnership as (another) mirror for our personal transformation.~~~
🔥 Breathwork x IFS Retreat
I’m co-hosting a powerful 4-day FBR Breathwork and Internal Family Systems Retreat in Northern California, June 26-30 with Jonny and Ian Stratton. This will be a unique retreat and mini-training designed to empower your own at-home healing practices.
More information will be announced within the week, but if you’re already curious, email me directly to be the first to receive access.
That’s all for today! Wishing you creative sparks, deep breaths, and the courage to follow what’s calling you forward 🫶