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Etta Brown's avatar

A wonderful, elderly friend described these as AFGOs. Each time she cycled back round, she’d throw her hands in the air and declare the situation an ‘AFGO’ (Another F*****g Growth Opportunity.) It’s a wonder to see this body of work developing Kelly…keep going!

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Sophie's avatar

Love this...💜

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Kelly Wilde Miller's avatar

Haha I may have to borrow this! Sums it up beautifully 😉 Thank you for the celebration and encouragement, Etta. Here’s to our endless stream of AFGOs 😵‍💫

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Sophie's avatar

Love this and can someone relate to it!

I've noticed 2 patterns and slowly making Mt way through them.

1. I write a lot of the same but in slightly different ways 😂 I know it is part of my creative process, so all good... but at some point it gets a blocker because I don't know which part is 'more worthwhile

2. I know I have a message to share. When I write it from a flow state, ut's done in 5min... but when I start to think 'what would others want to see in it' or try to bring other points from someone else in it (which my brain perceive as better than my own opinion...) then I hit a roadblock.

In fact, I think both are similar...or link to the same point... fear takes over when I start wondering how it will be received rather than simply sharing my message 😊

I have noticed the pattern but not fully work through it yet haha

Onwards and forward with more wisdom.

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Kelly Wilde Miller's avatar

Hey Sophie! Thanks for sharing. I can definitely relate to #2. Sounds like you've got some great self-awareness about the fear and how it travels into your thoughts and then through your writing.

Next time you sit down to write, I encourage you to track your emotional response and when you notice fear, pause and be with it. What is it afraid of? What does the fear want from you? Since the fear is attempting to get you to think about other people and what they'd like to read, how might that benefit you on some level? The fear is usually playing out an old adaptive strategy that once benefited you but is most likely unnecessary now. It can be helpful to soothe the parts that are getting activated and let them know that it's safe to write from a flow state...it's safe to express what's on your heart ♥️

Celebrating you and your writing practice! ✍️

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Sophie's avatar

Ho interesting thought to think that it was someonthing that benefited me before. Hadn't thought and explore that angle before! But will do now 🙏💖

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